How to convince your senior parents to move in a nursing home?
Change isn’t always easy, some people respond well to change while other remain conservative. Change is not easy even when you are young and you are bursting with energy, little alone when you are old, fragile, you have well established routines and you do not want to burden your children with any of your problems. But there comes a time when every family has to make a very tough decision. You have to show your parents that they are no longer capable to take care of themselves and that they would be better off in a nursing home.
Most seniors believe that they will be able to take care of themselves until the end of time but as we all know that is never the case. It is very hard to persuade somebody to make a change especially when that change does not come out of their own initiative. It usually takes something bad to happen before seniors will ever consider moving in to a nursing home. In order to avoid this there are a couple of tips and tricks that will help you show your parents that is more advantageous to live in a nursing home.
First of all it would be best if you would approach the “moving to nursing home” subject long before the need for this will actually appear. This will help seniors get accustomed with words such as nursing home, long term care facility, and will not react so negatively when they will hear them. Another advantage of this approach is that if you start long enough before the need to move them appears; the seniors might grow accustomed with the idea. They might think more clearly and see that they will never remain healthy and capable forever and that it would be wiser to plan ahead of time.
Another thing you must clarify before approaching this subject is to be sure that you are on the same page with your brothers, sisters or whoever might be taking part in the process of persuading the seniors to move into a nursing home. Items such as financials and who will act as the elder’s durable power of attorney for health care should be clarified in the presence of all the people involved in the process so that there will be no misunderstandings in the future.
Another important aspect is that instead of trying to convince them that the change is good for them try to make them realize that the change is good for you as well. Try to make them realize that they will help you by helping themselves. Most seniors refuse this change because they believe they will become a burden for their children but by changing this perception they will be more inclined to go through with the change.
Unfortunately there is no perfect recipe to convince your parents to move to a nursing home. The solution to this problem depends on many factors. But the key is not to give up easily, insist when you can, approach the subject well ahead of time and make them realize that the change is good not only for them but for you as well.